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In working with this record form, you may discover the following: |
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Performance is not always positively related to satisfaction. |
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Performance in objective, measurable terms gives you something realistic to shoot for rather than an unreachable standard. |
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You can equate good enough performance to excellence and need not be dependent upon the standards of others as to whether you have achieved excellence or not. |
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Much more than you might think, it is possible to enjoy activities in which you don't measure up to perfection or even good enough performance. |
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Most importantly, you can begin to see how much you control satisfaction and pleasure, regardless of the activity itself or the actual outcome of your performance. |
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"Good Enough" Affirmations |
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The following statements of affirmation should be repeated frequently during the day (either internally or out loud) as an aid in transforming perfectionistic thinking to excellence thinking. Affirmation statements put into positive words those beliefs that lend direction and support to a chosen goal. Obsessive-oriented perfectionists often do well with affirmations, because they tend to repeat various statements to themselves anyway in the effort to maintain self-control. |
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After reading the following list, choose one affirmation that feels right for you to focus on. Repeat it whenever you find yourself standing in line, driving, waiting for something, and other moments when your mind is not occupied. Sometimes, if you repeat it many times, you may find that the affirmation begins to repeat itself without any conscious effort on your part. Repeat the affirmation you choose for at least two or three days and then choose another one to focus on. |
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The value of these affirmations is that they may slowly begin to counter your unconscious, negatively programmed beliefs and help instill new, positive ones. Use these affirmations only in a constructive mannerdo not become obsessed with any of them, keeping in mind they are only mental tools. |
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